“Rape culture is a culture in which people who have survived a violent crime are asked to laugh about it because other people think it’s funny.”—(i wish i could put this on a business card and hand it out to people who make rape jokes. the flip side would say FUCK YOU)
I know there are lots of you out there as hellbent on making change as i am...
so, here’s what I want to know. do you feel this pull to make the world change, and to make things better because you want to, you feel that you have to, or because you feel like you can?
Do you fight everyday because you want more than anything for the world to be better? Do you fight everyday because you have to make the world better? Do you fight everyday because you know you can make the world better?
I feel like from day to day, my reasons change. Some days I just want to get out there and make things better, even if it’s a little thing. Even if all I make better that day is helping someone carry a stroller down the stairs when there is no elevator. Or when I worked at the group home and sometimes the only thing I could do to make the resident’s lives better was to make them a great birthday cake, or cook someone’s favorite dinner. Some days I do what I do because I want it. Some days I do what I do because I feel like I have to. Like, even as long as I can remember I’ve always felt that I had no choice but to do the right thing. There was no option not to because it just wasn’t there. there was no way that I could live with myself and not do what I knew was right. there was no way to turn away from a kid getting bullied and not say something. there was no way that I could be in the world and let things like that happen. Some days I don’t feel like I want to at all. Some days I just see the strange fact that I can look at these things. I can deal with the sadness in the world, I can look horrible things in the eye and be there and take some of it on. I can eleviate pain for others because I somehow have it in me to carry it myself.
It’s weird. Most days I feel some combination of the three. I’ve had so so so much privilege in my life. I have been able to avoid great suffering and trauma, I’ve had food and clothes and parents that loved me. I’ve had a lot more than what I needed. So sometimes I feel like I owe something to the world, somehow things fell into place and people took actions that lead to me having the life I’ve had, so I have to like ~pay it forward~ or whatever. I feel like I can carry the weight of other people’s suffering because I don’t have the burden of much of my own. I want to make the world better because other people have done things that made my life better.
I don’t know. Sometimes the fight seems so hard and so long and so massive. Everyday I try to remember that big change is made of lots of small changes. You have to keep making the world better because you’re here. You have to keep making the world better so it doesn’t make you worse. You have to keep looking darkness in the eye. You have to keep fighting.
“Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over.”—Gloria Naylor (via losinghead)
“In August of 1990 I found myself laying on my stomach in the woods with a pair of binoculars, a bottle of Canadian Club, and my friend Kurt Cobain. The reason why I had the binoculars was because I was the lookout while he ran across the street to a “teen pregnancy center” that had just opened in our town. It really wasn’t a teen pregnancy center, it was a right-wing con where they got teenage girls to go in there and then told them they were going to go to hell if they had abortions. Since Kurt and I were angry young feminists in the ’90s we decided that we were going to do a little public service that night. We drank our Canadian Club and he watched out while I went across the street and wrote, “Fake abortion clinic, everyone,” because I was kind of like the pragmatic one or whatever. He was more creative so he went over and in six-foot-tall red letters he wrote, “God is gay.” [applause]”—
Obsessing Over: Finding out what will happen to me next year! Will I be in grad school? Will we live in the city still? Will will get a job (or a job he likes)? Will I like grad school? What will I do if I don’t get into grad school? Will they give me enough financial aid?
Working On: Checking things off on my to-do list.
Thinking About: The fact that it’s already almost MARCH! I can’t believe it! I only have like two months left of being an undergrad!! WEIRD!
Anticipating: The next 6 or 7 months and figuring out how life will turn out in this very unsteady and questionable time.
Listening To: Matson Jones, Welcome Back Mr. Audiotechnica
Drinking: Water, but I left it in the other room by accident.
Wishing: I was doing a better job at keeping up with Tumblr and/or that my life was a bit less hectic. I AM SO SO SO BUSY!! I mean like, for real I haven’t done basically anything fun in weeks. I’m sorry I’m so absent, (again - how many weeks in a row have I been apologizing for this?) I’m losing followers left and right. Oh well. Between grad school applications, keeping up with the apartment, working lots of extra shifts, regular school work, going to the gym, and trying to at least make time to eat dinner with will - my life is REALLY jam packed. I think pretty soon I should be leveling out though so hopefully I’ll be around more soon.
The version of the bill that passed through the state House Wednesday would prohibit any instruction in contraception, though teachers would be allowed to answer student questions about safe sex.
That provision is a departure from current law, which prohibits the advocacy of contraception and sexual activity outside of marriage. It also tightens the already-conservative regulations that sex ed curricula emphasize abstinence before marriage and fidelity after marriage and “personal skills that encourage individual choice of abstinence and fidelity.”
An abstinence-only sex education course, Wright said, would include lessons on friendship, dating and love. It could include lessons on the consequences of sex outside of marriage and a chapter on how to say no to sex. The lawmaker believes that poverty rates would drop if abstinence became a more common practice, the Daily Herald reports.