While the prevalence of street harassment may be new to many men who read or hear about it, it’s not to women. For generations, grandmothers, mothers, aunts, and older sisters have shared tips and advice to girls to try to keep them safe from men: Don’t go out alone after dark. Memorize a fake phone number. Carry mace. Dress conservatively. Ignore them.
But it’s time to go beyond that well-intentioned advice which makes women feel less safe and often doesn’t work. Given how widespread street harassment is, those tips have the effect of limiting women’s access to public spaces. It keeps them on guard, off the streets, and dependent on men as escorts. No country has achieved equality and no country will until women can navigate public places without experiencing or fearing street harassment.
i think i mentioned here many times over the summer how incredibly miserable i was at my job. well, right after i left, they asked me to come back part time since i’m in school now, and i said no. part of my decision was because i didn’t feel like i had enough time to dedicate to them, but most of my decision was because i knew i would die if i worked there more.
well, i talk to a couple of the kids i worked with other the summer and they said they accepted the offer to stay on part time and that now it’s even more miserable than before because they have to keep a log of LITERALLY EVERY MOMENT OF THEIR DAY including what they are doing, and bathroom breaks. LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL. got out of that just in time huh? one of them said that they were talking about how ridiculous it would be if i was still there because i would be flipping out about how ridiculous that is. i legit would have walked out the moment they said that. way to create a shitty work environment people! hah. soooo glad i chose relative poverty over their paychecks, regardless of how much they overpay.
also - i am currently skipping my first class of the semester because yesterday i was busy being the birthday girl and not busy writing this paper and i drastically underestimated how long it would take to finish it! woops!
When somebody says, “I don’t think women should be raped for wearing short skirts, but what do they expect when they do go out like that?” what you are actually saying is that if a woman in a short skirt is raped, you will be less likely to hold her rapist culpable. Which makes a woman in a short skirt really appealing to a rapist. That’s something that you did. That’s not something the woman in the short skirt did, or something the rapist did. You made that woman a more comfortable target by making it clear that if she got raped, you would be less upset about it, less willing to see the rapist go to jail, less willing to support the woman.”—Harriet J (via bitterbuffalo)
but she kept bringing into the bed so i picked her up when she put it in her mouth and carried her to the living room. i think she accidentally swallowed the fly and now she is so confused and keeps trying to find the fly where she thinks it might be and crying. i feel bad but also lol.
“For the amendment’s supporters, the fact that the new law would not allow exceptions for rape or incest is something to be highlighted. Riley’s “Conceived in Rape Tour” this spring was an attempt to counter the notion, held even by many pro-lifers, that abortion is acceptable in cases of rape or incest. Those are “a tragic occurrence,” Prewitt says, “but you don’t execute the product of the crime, and that’s what abortion does.””—Today’s must-read:The most radical anti-abortion measure on the ballot this fall—and the Christian secessionist behind it. (via motherjones)
I can't stand when people don't understand that you can't infer causation from correlational studies
I’m reading an article about how students who stay up late risk trouble and they are ignoring that while there may be a correlation between staying up late and using drugs/alcohol, it isn’t a lack of sleep CAUSING that. They’re basically like “go to sleep kids because otherwise you’ll be a drug addict!” and I’m sitting here pulling my hair out.
Teach them it’s okay to be emotional and that holding feelings in is not what being a man is about.
Become media literate so that they can become aware of how gender is portrayed in terms of what they are seeing and hearing. When a boy sees an ad or a tv show in which stereotypes are present, make sure you point it out.
Teach them that there is more to a girl than what she looks like. Discuss famous women who have done and are doing important things.
Make play dates in which there are boys and girls to play with. Making friends with girls can be an important part of how they will perceive women.
Introduce them to female characters through books, movies, etc. Research shows that a majority of these characters are male, so it will be up to you to provide a variety.
As a young man:
Teach them that “feminism” means promoting women’s rights and interests.
Discuss how being a feminist does not mean women hate men or that women think men are the enemy.
Teach them that by taking a role in feminism they will be helping everyone not just women.
Teach them that because they are at the top of society’s hierarchy, they have a responsibility and an ability to be part of social change and justice for everyone.
Simply talk to them and use probing questions when teachable moments arise. Allow them to reach their own conclusions.
reasons why i hate cooking. ugh. made corn on the cob and cheeseburgers for dinner and nothing was good. i didn’t like the burger, and then the corn seemed weirdly hard and so basically i ate like half the burger and had one bite of corn and now i wasted all that time and effort and now i’m still hungry and i’m even more tired. i feel so exhausted and overwhelmed and i just want a giant vacation where someone will pay me to be on vacation and also pay for me to go somewhere really chill, like a sick hotel where they will buy me massages and i can swim in the pool and be in a jacuzzi.
listen, my birthday is wednesday, i think we could all ban together to pay me to vacation right?