[Side note: So many of my friends no longer eat meat. Others ignore the plant/animal binary and eat whatever tastes tremendous (ie “I’m a TREMENDETARIAN”). I guess I’m a pescatarian, though given how faithful I am a more fitting label would be LAPSE-ATERIAN.
Today, my external hard drive broke. My husband tried to fix it, and the computer told him he needed to format it. Apparently he didn’t know what formatting does, so he did it. I’m a wedding photographer and had a full summer of unfinished wedding photography on there. FML
i feel for you, but if you have important shit going on, you are just plain stupid if you aren’t backing it up.
downloading mad men now. will has this alarm clock that i hate because it is outrageously loud and STILL doesn’t wake him up. all it does is wake me up so much that i can’t go back to sleep. anyway, normally he would get up at 7 (if he were still at his internship). this alarm clock is worse because you set a time for each day of the week and so even if he forgets to turn it on, it still goes off because it’s set to just do it. he forgot to turn it off. i can’t sleep now.
in a couple hours we are meeting will’s dad and my parents for lunch so they can finally meet. it’s funny because i just really don’t give a fuck. i thought i would be nervous, and i think i would be, had we not waited so long to do this.
i mean at this point it really doesn’t even fucking matter. so i am like nbd about the whole situation.
HOLY SHIT THOUGH TOMORROW I AM MOVING. yes yes yes yes yes yes yes. SO FUCKING EXITED.
What I remember most about it was the reaction of the world. The entire world, with the exception of just a few places, was as horrified and appalled by it as we were. There were demonstrations and memorials around the world, all by people who hold the same ideals and dreams…
on a side note though: i was in 6th grade when 9/11 happened and I was scared shitless. I remember being on the bus home and thinking that I wished i were younger or older. i felt like i was too young to be really told what was going on, but too old to be really protected from it. my mom was gone when my sister and i got off the bus, i was sure she had died. i guess i just really didn’t understand what was going on because we live in massachusetts, and there is no way that she could have been killed in 9/11. i was sure she was though.
tried to teach the kids about safe spaces and derailing today. not 100% that it worked. got a “what do you mean by privilege?” question from a white boy; gonna have to make a note to do some basic 101 shit with everyone soon. not gonna see these kids for another week and a half. they owe me two…
what was bad about interview with the vampire? I tried to watch it a few weeks ago and couldn’t get into it at all so i just stopped. what did you hate about it?
“More girls were killed in the last 50 years, precisely because they were girls, than men killed in all the wars in the 20th century. More girls are killed in this routine gendercide in any one decade than people were slaughtered in all the genocides of the 20th century. The equivalent of 5 jumbo jets worth of women die in labor each day; lifetime risk of maternal death is 1,000x higher in a poor country than in the west. That should be an international scandal.”— from Half the Sky: Turning Oppression into Opportunity for Women Worldwide (via glitteranddie) (via earlyfrost) (via brave-slut)
time to go back to my apartment and pack up the remainder of my shit. i really, really, really don’t want to do this. i wish it was done already. all i need to do is pack up my pantry and sort through what of the last of my shit in my rom is crap and what is actual things that i need to keep. i really wish this were just over already.
“1. Ask EVERYONE which pronouns they use, and actually commit yourself to using them. Please please please stop only asking people who look “gender-variant” enough about their pronouns. First of all, we (shockingly) don’t like always being singled out in groups for our gender presentation. Secondly, you can’t tell people’s gender identities by looking at them. We should be building a radical culture where everyone can have their identities respected, and making questions about pronouns a habit for everyone makes it much easier for that to take shape, rather than trans and genderqueer people having to feel the pressure of constantly outing themselves every time they meet a new persyn. 2. Stop saying “male-bodied” and “female-bodied.” Seriously though, I don’t know how this became standard protocol for radicals, but it’s incredibly problematic. Firstly, what do these terms even mean? What parts does a body need to be male, and what parts does it need to be female? Simply put, there’s no way of defining what a male or female body is, since both sex and gender are social constructs. And there are plenty of others who see themselves as having neither a “male” nor a “female” body. So when you use these terms, you’re identifying people based on their bodies and body parts you may assume them to have and assume that said body parts are at all related to their sex or gender.
3. Stop saying “male-identified” and “female-identified.” Well if you’re not supposed to judge people based on their bodies, then you should probably ask people how they identify. However, people often fall into the trap of then referring to trans/genderqueer people they know as “male-identified” and “female-identified,” rather than “man” and “woman.” Such language implies that cis people are “men” and “women,” but trans people are somehow less authentically gendered, and are only “male-identified” and “female-identified.” In somewhat the same vein, I’ve heard radicals say things like “He/She identifies are genderqueer,” a pronoun failure which in context signifies the same thing that “male-identified” and “female-identifies” often do: you may identify as a certain gender, but that doesn’t mean I have to treat you like that gender. So please, use “man,” “woman,” and “genderqueer persyn” rather than adding “-identified,” it’s already implied!
4. Stop “third-gendering” trans people. Trying to be trans-inclusive and say “men, women, and transgender people”? Please, stop. A lot of trans people identify as men and women. When you make a gendered list like that, it makes it seems like all trans people belong some “third gender” category and cannot then, be “authentic” men and women. Now, it would be nice for you to include genderqueer/gender non-conforming people in this list (“men, women, and genderqueer people”), but that is a more specific subset the trans community and we need to have that specific language so we don’t reduce all trans people’s experiences as uniform.
5. ”Trans” is an adjective; consequently it requires a space between itself and the word it’s modifying. This is in reference to numerous people writing things that include words like “transfolk,” “transwoman,” and “transman.” This goes back to the discussion of “third-gendering” as well. Connecting “trans” to the word it’s modifying makes a “transperson” something distinct from a regular “person” You probably wouldn’t say “whiteman” or “wealthywoman,” so don’t use “transfolk,” “transwoman,” or any variant thereof.”
these are all good things, however number one is kind of a little silly. yeah, it would be great to do that, and yes there are MANY situations where this would be handy to have as something normal to ask people. In many situations i can see this as being something i could ask to everyone i’m talking to at the moment, but at the same time, i can imagine other situations where this would just make me seem like a total ridiculous weirdo. i just find it really silly.
i have to say, one of the best things about my days is having will around. he is always saying the nicest shit to me. even when he isn’t around i am always getting text messages that are almost obnoxiously cute.
it’s hilarious to me also how much having that has changed me as a person.
when i met will i was outrageously sarcastic, i was fairly unhappy, i was a walking pity party a good chunk of the time. now things are really different. i’m much more optimistic, however still sarcastic. i am much happier and much more confident.
it’s also interesting how all of this has changed my relationship with my mom. i hated her for years, i was mad at what happened. (it’s a really long story, but in a short summary, essentially my sister is a world champion figure skater, and for years during middle school and high school, my mom was gone all over europe and the united states with my sister for skating. i was left home alone when i was really going through a lot of serious shit and nobody was around for me at all) i really hated both my sister and my mom, and partially my dad for allowing me to be abandoned like that. now we are all friends again though and it’s really nice.
it’s been so nice to have so much support and positivity and my life, especially after getting fired and feeling like shit about it.
Cyanide - Cyanide kills by preventing red blood cells from absorbing oxygen. This resulted in a process known as “internal shortness of breath”. Cyanide capsules were allegedly used by spies in World War II as an easy escape option to avoid persecution.
Arsenic - Anyone swallowing large amounts of arsenic will usually die within a few hours following seizures and shock. If death does not occur at this earlier stage your kidneys will pack in and you will be dead within days. Historically, it is a favourite tool of killers.
Brazilian Wandering Spider - This spider kills around five people a year. Symptoms include immediate pain, heavy perspiration and drooling. Often hides in bunches of bananas.
Capsaicin - This is the chemical that makes chillis hot, but in its purest form it is strong enough to kill you if you eat it. Will cause burns and blistering in contact with human skin.
Death Cap Mushroom - One of the most toxic fungi, 30g is enough to kill a human. Symptoms include jaundice, lethargy, sweats and dizziness, Usually the only treatment is a liver transplant.
Ricin - This toxin is made from the castor bean. Twice as deadly as cobra venom, two-tenths of a milligram is a lethal dose. At one point, the U.S. Army considered using ricin as a chemical weapon.
Golden Poison frog - It is probably the most poisonous animal on Earth. It is so toxic that even touching it can be dangerous. A single frog contains enough poison to kill 20,000 mice or 10 people. It is usually found in Central and South America.
Anthrax - Anthrax is an acute infectious disease caused by the spore-forming bacterium Bacillus anthracis. Inhalational anthrax is highly fatal. Respiratory infection initially presents with cold or flu-like symptoms for several days, followed by severe (and often fatal) respiratory collapse. If not treated soon after exposure, before symptoms appear, there is a near 100% mortality.
Deathstalker scorpion - Found in the hot climates of North Africa and the Middle East, the Deathstalker can kill a human with a single stab of its barbed tail.
Black Widow spider - The Black Widow is easily identifiable by the distinctive red markings on its stomach. It is a large widow spider found throughout the world and commonly associated with urban habitats or agricultural areas. The Black Widow’s venom is 15 times more potent than a rattlesnakes.
Dioxin - Reputed to be the most dangerous man-made poison, it is 60,000 times more toxic than cyanide. A dose of only 50 micrograms is lethal for a human - that’s a 1,000th of a small pill.
Death Lily - Leaves can be confused with wild onions. Found in America and Siberia. It’s fatal to humans and animals. Symptoms start with burning lips and grow to slow heart beat, low temperature, coma and finally death.